Friday

Let’s pray for little ones today.  I know it touches our hearts when we hear of their pain and their successes.

 

Trip Roth

http://randycourtneytripproth.blogspot.com/2011/09/im-just-little-bit.html?spref=fb

Larkin Dorris

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/larkindorris

Jadon’s Story: I’m standing and Detroit



Sorry I’ve been slacking on the updates. Just been a little busy. First I want to start by saying I’m standing up. I can only stand there for about 10 seconds but its a start. I also started saying no no no. I’ve been very talkative this past week. My favorite word right now is ma ma. You know she is my favorite person. LOL I love my daddy and brother too. Well on to my trip. We made it to Detroit yesterday around 3:30. I was wonderful on the flight. I slept most of the time and when I was awake I was smiling at people and trying to get all the attention. The best part of the plane ride was landing. I screamed really loud like I was on a roller coaster. I’m not sure if the people on the plane liked this but oh well I was having fun. Once we got here we took a taxi to the Ronald McDonald House. The house is awesome. We even have our own private bathroom. The people here are very friendly. Tonight the local electric company came and cooked supper for us. It was very delicious. One of the guys that cooked for us had his son with him who had epilepsy too. We talked to them for a while. He actually sees the same doctor as we are going to see Friday. They said he is wonderful. Another great thing about the house is it is only $10 a night. We will not be able to stay here Friday night but that’s ok. We are very thankful to get to stay here the other days. The hospital is right next door to the house. I had my AMT PET scan done today. It went alot smoother than I expected. We got to the hospital around 8:00 this morning. We had to wait for the medicine to be made. You have to be at the hospital before it is made. We waited until about 9:30. They took me back and started my IV’s. Yes that’s right I had to have two IV’s. One to put medicine in and the other to draw blood out of during the test. The two have to come out of separate veins, they can not cross. The nurses did a great job putting them in. I was kicking and screaming and giving them a hard time. It’s amazing they got them in so quickly. I went into the PET scan around 10:15 and I was done by 11:30. The doctor wanted me to use the new scanner. That scanner is faster and was able to do the test in a little over an hour. We originally were told it would be over two hours. So this was a blessing that we were able to use the new scanner. Once the test was over, they woke me up and we were back at the house by 12:00. We took a long nap once we got there. When I woke up we walked to the market and bought some groceries to keep at the house. So thank you so much for your prayers. Today was much easier than expected. We do not have to go back for any testing tomorrow. We are going to try to go do something in the city. Just so you know, this is not the best city we have been to. It’s a little scary. So glad my daddy is here with us. In fact we walked to a place to eat yesterday afternoon and turned around. We did find a better area to go today. I will keep you all posted. We see the neurologist Friday and we should have some results. Thanks again for praying for me and please continue to pray for good results Friday. I love you all very much!!!!

Heart to Heart with Holley: Three Simple Ways to Help Anyone in Your Life

As a life coach and counselor I’m often asked, “How do I help this person in my life?” There’s a simple strategy you can use when someone shares with you–whether it’s a coworker having a bad day, a relative facing a sudden crisis, or someone at church who’s confiding a struggle.

Think of these three steps as your trump card. They let you always play an ACE that helps those in your life win.

A – Affirm the emotion 

God gave us a part of our brains called the amygdala that takes care of our flight or fight response. It lets us take action quickly (like when a bear is running after us). While we don’t face many physical dangers in our lives, emotional stress causes this system to kick in as well.

When you’re dealing with a stressed out person you’re talking to their amygdala. This is not about rational thought. Express a message that says, “Hey, I recognize your emotion and validate it.” That calms the flight/fight response and lets the decision-making part of our brains (the prefrontal cortex) kick in and start doing its job.

{Example: “Wow, you sound really frustrated. What happened?”}

C – Call out the best in the person 

In our most stressful moments, we all have a tendency to feel overwhelmed by guilt and a feeling that we’re not living up to our own or others’ expectations. Or we simply forget who we are in the heat of the moment and act in ways uncharacteristic of us.

What we often need most is someone who can see through to our hearts and remind us of who we really are–the best of us–at the worst of times. That can help us refocus on what matters most and move forward in positive ways.

{Example: “I’ve seen you deal with situations like this before. Your strength and love for others always shines through in the end. I know it will this time too.”

 

E – Encourage the next step

Here’s a secret: life coaches and counselors don’t have the solutions. In all of my training, what’s been emphasized most is not magic-bullet cure-all approaches. Instead it’s being a partner on that person’s journey with God to finding their own answers.

Usually, they’ve already got what they need–it’s just a matter of providing a safe space for it to come out. Resist the urge to give advice or tell others what to do. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can offer (and much harder than it seems).

{Example: “I care about you and I wish you weren’t going through this. Now that we’ve talked about it for a few minutes, what do you think you’ll do next”?}

At this point, the person may respond with another emotion. For example, she might say, “I don’t know. I’m just really hurt.” If so, start back with A and go through the process again.

We often try to make helping others more complicated than it really needs to be. Practice this approach and then make it your own. You are often the best gift you can offer someone who is hurting and you truly do make a difference.

 

Have a blessed day!

Anna Lee

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